Top Narcissistic Abuse Triggers

My Unseen Scars

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Narcissistic abuse leaves lasting marks, and those scars can unexpectedly resurface. Even after you've moved on, triggers can drag you back to painful memories and self-doubt. But here's the thing: each trigger is a gateway—not only to the trauma but also to the incredible strength you've developed to overcome it. Healing isn't easy, but it's definitely possible.

Here are my top triggers and the reasons they still affect me.

1. Gaslighting

When someone twists the truth or denies reality, instantly my alarm bells go off. Gaslighting was a cornerstone of the abuse I endured, making me question my perceptions, feelings, and even my sanity.

Why It Affects Me:
Gaslighting leaves you in a constant state of self-doubt. Even now, when someone questions my memory or feelings, I feel an overwhelming urge to defend myself, as if I’m back in those moments where I wasn’t allowed to trust my instincts.

2. Love Bombing

Grand gestures, excessive flattery, and sudden intense attention used to feel like love. Now, they’re a red flag.

Why It Affects Me:
Love bombing was how my abuser pulled me in. It felt euphoric, but it was the bait in a toxic cycle. Now, when someone comes on too strong too quickly, it feels manipulative rather than genuine, reminding me of the times I fell for those traps.